Get Better at Feeling Bad
Avoiding pain strengthens fear and suffering. Real growth comes from facing difficult emotions—because sometimes, feeling better starts with learning to feel bad.
We all come to therapy for our own, sometimes very different reasons.
I’m glad you’re taking that step. It’s an important one.
Therapy for individuals, couples, and those navigating problematic sexual behaviors.
About Ian
Learn more about me and why this work is so important to me.
Services
Take a look at my areas of focus. Feel free to ask questions.
“A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man without trials.”
Seneca
For whom I can be helpful…
Adolescents and Families
I have seventeen years of experience working with teens and their families, in various capacities and settings. I have worked as a direct care staff, therapeutic program manager, and therapist in wilderness camp, residential treatment centers, intensive outpatient programs, and for the past ten years in private practice.
Adults
Some clients come to my practice to sift through issues from their past. Some clients are looking to be proactive with things that are developing. Some come in just to feel better; to be less depressed, less anxious, and happier overall.
Those struggling with problematic sexual behavior
I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. I help individuals identify reasons for the sexual behavior that has been disruptive in their life. Together, we work to address those underlying reasons, cope with the repercussions, and move toward a healthier life for themselves and their family.
“Ian is a phenomenal counselor, mentor, and coach. He guided me out of a very dark place by listening, providing sage insights, offering candid, honest feedback, and holding me accountable to my stated goals. He simultaneously challenged and supported me as I embraced the grind of recovery. I am, without a doubt, a better man because of him and am eternally grateful for his involvement in my life.”
-TC
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